Winter Solstice Calm: Somatic Regulation for Holiday Anxiety & Overwhelm

Hi there and welcome back to calming anxiety. I'm really chuffed that you're here with me today, especially today of all days. It's December 21st and we are four days away from Christmas and the peak intensity of the holiday season. If you're feeling the pressure mounting, the financial stress, the social expectations and the sheer mental low of making magic happen for everyone else, I want you to know that whatever your feeling is valid.

But today is also special for another reason. In the Northern Hemisphere, it's the winter solstice. It's the shortest day and the longest night of the year. For centuries, this hasn't been a time of frantic activity but a time of deep stillness, a time to go inward and rest in the dark.

Yet in our modern world, we are often doing the exact opposite. We're pushing our bodies harder right when nature is telling us to slow down. This disconnect leads to what many of us feel right now, which is a nervous system dysregulation. It's that physical buzz of anxiety beneath the skin, the inability to settle down even when you finally sit on the sofa.

Your heart still races, your breathing is shallow. Today, we are going back to my roots, back to the proven format of this show, because when you are overwhelmed, you need simplicity. We're going to spend the next few minutes not just relaxing your mind, but actively regulating your nervous system using the somatic grounding techniques which are designed to soothe that holiday buzz and then we'll flow into the affirmations to help you embrace the permission to rest. This is your coffee break for the song.

Let's begin by finding a comfortable place where you won't be disturbed just for a few minutes. You can be seated or lying. As your eyes, if that feels safe, or just soften your gaze towards the floor, we aren't trying to escape reality right now, we are trying to ground ourselves within it. I want you to bring all of your attention to the physical sensation of gravity.

Feel the weight of your body pressing down into the surface beneath you. Notice the parts of you that are being supported, the backs of your legs, your spine, or even perhaps your head. Feel that support rising up to meet you so that you don't have to hold yourself up right now. You can let go.

Take a deep breath in through your nose, feeling your ribs expand sideways and rise, not just up into your chest and then release it slowly through per slips like you're blowing out a candle. Do that again. Deep breath in, filling the lower lungs, expanding the belly and then slowly blowing it out. Now, to help regulate that buzzing nervous system, we are going to use physical touch.

I want you to take your right hand and place it firmly over the center of your chest, over your heart space and take your left hand and place it on your belly. Just feel the warmth of your own hands. This pressure sends a signal of safety to your brain. It says, "I am here.

I have got you." Feel the gentle rise and form of your breath beneath your palms. You are contained. You are safe in your own body.

For the next few breaths, on the exhale, keeping your mouth closed, I want you to make a gentle humming sound deep in your throat, almost like a purring cat. This vibration stimulates the vagus nerve, which is the superhighway, to calming your entire system. Breathe in deeply and hum it out. Feel that vibration spreading through your chest, spreading through your throat, soothing the frazzled edges of your nerves.

Do that one more time. Breathe in and hum. Now just return to a natural soft breath, feeling heavy, feeling grounded, feeling the quiet darkness behind closed eyes. Keeping your eyes closed and your body heavy, stay in this space of gentle regulation as we allow these affirmations to wash over you.

Just fight them or analyze them. Just let them land where they need to. It is safe for me to slow down right now.

I give myself permission to align with the stillness of the winter solstice.

The darkness is not empty, it is restful and I am allowed to rest.

My worth is not tied to how much I do or buy or plan this week.

I release the pressure to perform happiness and allow myself to just be.

I am listening to the needs of my nervous system over the demands of the season.

It is okay to do less so I can feel more peace.

And in the stillness I am enough. I am allowed to set boundaries that protect my energy during this busy time.

I am grounded, I am safe and I am choosing self-love over sacrifice.

I embrace the quiet of the longest night as a gift to my weary mind.

My body deserves this moment of pause. I am worthy of the same care and magic that I try to create for others.

Now slowly begin to deepen your breathing again. Feel the clothes on your skin, the temperature of the air in the room. Wiggle your fingers and toes bringing some gentle movement back into the regulated body. On the next out breath if you wish stretch out the muscles in your arms and legs and when you are ready gently open your eyes.

Remember that this sense of calm is available to you at any point over the next few days.

When the noise gets too loud you can always come back to your breath back to the gravity holding you down, back to the safety of your own touch. If you found this session helpful please consider subscribing or sharing it with a friend who might also need a nervous system reset this week. Be gentle with yourself. Have a wonderful day.

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