Stop Absorbing Their Stress : A 10-Minute Reset for Relationship & Workplace Peace

Welcome back. Today we're addressing the people element of our stress, whether it's friction filled emails from a manager or a heavy silence with a partner. Other people's energy can feel like a storm that we're caught in. "Hi there, I'm martin, this is Calming Anxiety. Thank you for joining me today. Before we get into it, just a reminder at calminganxiety.fm, there's the anxiety circuit breaker course. Five wonderful, heartfelt sessions, almost your own hypnotherapist designed to help you combat your anxious thoughts. That's calminganxiety.fm. Now find your quiet place today, somewhere company where you won't be disturbed, you can sit or lie down whichever you find the most comfortable. Close your eyes. Feel the weight of your body against the chair or bed.

And let's take three cleansing sides, inhale deeply through your nose. And then as you breathe out through your mouth, make a literal sound, a sigh that will signal to your nervous system.

I am safe here. So breathe in mindfully through your nose, feeling the temperature of the air against your nostrils. And then a big, slow, lengthy outpress with an audible sigh.

Feel your shoulders dropping away from your ears. The muscles around your jaw, they unclench.

Let's do that once more. Breathe in deeply and then a big sigh out. And relax and unwind deeply and safely with every outpress, with every word I say. And in the beauty of your mind, in this moment of mindful meditation, as you release the stress and anxiety as you learn to control the panic attack feelings and sensations. Visualize a golden circle on the floor around you. This is your sovereignty circle. Inside this circle, you are the only one who decides your internal weather. Look at the person or the relationship causing you stress. Imagine you see them standing outside that circle. They may be bringing a storm, lightning, rain, wind. But notice how that weather stops at the edge of your circle. You can see the storm, you can acknowledge the storm, but you do not have to be in it. Breathe into the calm, dry air inside your space.

Now place a hand over your heart. We often hold relationship stress as a tightness in the chest or a knot in the stomach. As you breathe, imagine you are breathing directly into your heart space. With every exhale, whisper the word, release. Imagine that again with hand on heart as you exhale, release. Now try the third person shift. Imagine you are a neutral observer watching a movie of the stressful interaction. From this distance, can you see the why behind their behavior? Perhaps they are acting from their own fear, their own pressure or their own exhaustion. This isn't to excuse them, but to detach yourself from the hook of their reaction. You are the observer, not the target. Imagine this interaction once more, but take all the color out of it, any emotion or reaction and watch it, plain, bland, almost vanilla in how you view it. Because you now have the control, the self-compassion to detach yourself from the negative thoughts, words or actions of those around you. You build your own self-worth because simply put, you are worthy. Now in your mind's eye, see yourself interacting with this person again, but this time, imagine yourself being just three degrees of your body, not just a tiny bit more spacious. Notice how your body feels when you choose to lead with a calm presence rather than a defensive one. You are the anchor. When the anchor is steady, the boat, no matter how much it tosses and turns, eventually finds its center.

So within the beauty of this moment, in this intimate connection of mind, body and soul, in your mind's eye, visualize these beautiful words, seeing them in your thoughts and repeating them silently. My self-worth is not defined by those around me.

I am the creator of my own destiny. My past does not define my future.

I am at peace with all that I am. And then relax, my friend. Every outreth, a deeper sense of calm and understanding flows through every thought. Relax and unwind. And within this moment of mindful solitude and acceptance, here are your three caring daily tips for a more positive life. One, when the words of others affect you, breathe deeply and imagine that circle of trust around you, you are in control. Two, take five minutes today to appreciate how far you've come. Three, always practice self-gratitude. Love all that you are. Forgive when you can. Now wiggle your fingers and toes, bringing your awareness back into the room.

Now take a deep breath in and on the out-breath, stretch the arms out overhead. And then open your eyes and smile. Thank you. Deeply, for just turning up and taking back control.

My mission with calming anxiety is simply to share the knowledge and understanding I've gained as a paramedic, a hypnotist, but more than that, someone who's battled severe mental health issues and overcome them to finally be the best version I could ever wish to be. I give this to you and hope you do soon. And then once you've found yourself, you also become a beacon of hope for others. Have a lovely day, smile often, positive thoughts and as always, especially to yourself. Be kind.